The Grief Room ~ Hope in the Midst of Adversity

In the midst of the Grief Room; Our Comforter and Our Counselor God is there for us.

“Oh God, You bring oil to our wounds and lifts our heads again!  You give us ‘Beauty for Ashes’.  This is Who You are! You guide & comfort us with Your Hopeful Voice.”

Jesus comforted Mary & Martha when Lazarus died. He wept with them in their mourning over their beloved brother.  And He raised him from the dead!  Talk about comfort! Jesus comforted His mother even while on the cross, Jesus appointed John, the Beloved disciple, to watch over her as He hung on the cross.

Our God of Comforter & Counselor Proclamation:
Oh God! You are the lifter of our heads and the Encourager of our souls.  We will not lose heart as we lean on You! You are ministering Your comfort to us, Oh mighty Comforter. We will be great comforters of others, we will encourage and lift the heads of others to see You in Joy and Hope!

Isaiah 49:13– “Sing, O heavens! Be joyful, O earth! And break out in singing, O mountains! For the LORD has comforted His people, and will have mercy on His afflicted.”

Isaiah 61:2– You comfort those who mourn…

John 14:16– “And I will pray to the Father, and He will give you another Comforter, that He may abide with you forever.”

Acts 9:31– “So the church throughout all Judea and Galilee and Samaria enjoyed peace, being built up; and going on in the fear of the Lord and in the comfort of the Holy Spirit, it continued to increase.”

2 Cor 1:3-5– “Blessed {be} the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For just as the sufferings of Christ are ours in abundance, so also our comfort is abundant through Christ.”

2 Thes 2:16– “Now may our Lord Jesus Christ Himself and God our Father, who has loved us and given us eternal comfort and good hope by grace,”

Father, You are the Great Counselor who contains all wisdom, knowledge and understanding. You see the beginning from the end and You give perfect insight and counsel. We will walk in Your Counsel, in Your Wisdom, and will help many to see from Your Heavenly Eternal Perspective!

 Isaiah 9:6–“For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.”

John 14:26 – But the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My Name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you.”

Father, You are our Guide on the journey forward. You give unity of vision & purpose in You. You are the guiding source in our life. You Guide us in all our decisions & activities.  You say “This is the way, walk in it.”  You give confidence as You guide our steps.

Inside the Grief Room you will encounter the Face of God as “Our Comforter God”

The God of Comfort: Comfort means to come forth and rise again; This is what the comfort helps us to do. He is attentive to our grief and He is our comforter and counselor. He is there and always listening. We can be confident that He will care for us in all our times of trouble.
“Blessed [gratefully praised and adored] be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts and encourages us in every trouble so that we will be able to comfort and encourage those who are in any kind of trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. 5 For just as Christ’s sufferings are ours in abundance [as they overflow to His followers], so also our comfort [our reassurance, our encouragement, our consolation] is abundant through Christ [it is truly more than enough to endure what we must]”. 1 Cor 1:3-5

In the Grief Room you will discover: The 8 Ways that Jesus died for you.

The First Way: Jesus in the garden died by making the choice in His mind that he would later walk out in His Body and “Die that we may have Life”. He showed me the depth of commitment that He made to us over Himself. I was undone when He first revealed this passage to me: “His death for our Life” in Genesis 3:5. He settled this treasure of His death. Jesus died for “Our Mind and Renewed Thoughts” through trusting Him versus Adam and Eve trusting themselves and their own thoughts.

The Second Way: Jesus died to “His Right to have Legitimate Anger” towards the Good Samaritans.

The Third Way: He died to “His Rightful Judgment” of the Pharisees.

(John 8)

The Fourth Way: He died to “His Pain and the Spirit of Rejection”.

John 13:1- He loved his disciples and knew that they would all betray Him:
He died to “Rejection and Betrayal”.

The Fifth Way: He died on the cross for “Mankind’s Future”.

The Sixth Way: “He died to His Voice”; so that we would have a voice in the future. (He kept silent before His accusers.)

The Seventh Way: “He died to His Prosperity”; so that we might come alive to prosperity in the future.

The Eighth Way: He died to “His Community; so that we might have a community in the future”. (All of His local people rejected Him. They were going to stone Him and He walked through the crowds and they didn’t see/discern Him.)

The Core Teaching of the Grief Room

3 Most Important Things to Know about the Room:

  1. The Grief Room is a joyful, tender, beautiful place versus a somber place. You get to know Jesus more and understand how much He loves you.You must consider Jesus even more in the midst of grief and pain.
  2. In the Grief Room you will see Jesus and His face of empathy and then learn how to empathize with others and grow in compassion.
  3. In the Grief Room you are taught what the true definition of grief is according to God, and how to perceive the grief and deal with it.

3 Most Important Things to Learn in the Grief Room:

  1. You will learn to see your dream in Him go deeper, sweeter and more substantial vs having your dreams be stolen because of the inability to deal with grief
  2. You learn how to perceive dank emotions and be able to identify them. You will look at the face of God of Comfort and Joy immediately and not get stuck. You will learn long term perspective through the Eyes of Jesus; gaining a “Patriarchal Perspective”.
  3. You will learn just how much you need true Marvelous Comrades. Jesus was the true Marvelous comrade who came along beside me.

The Grief Room the #4 Corner: “Grief over times I didn’t ask for His heart again.”

Jesus was showing me and preparing me for how grievous it was to Him when I felt ashamed and didn’t ask for His heart again. He gave me the dream that it was the second time that I wouldn’t look to Him.  Then there was the dream of “Mr. Squash-bucket” and it is demonic. He is hitting me in the chest with a bucket and this about killed me. I felt that this was supposed to happen to me; I felt that I was to supposed to be abused because I felt separated from the Lord and I was not talking to Him. So, I was just letting this guy do this. Jesus was standing in the corner . Jesus said to me “I would never do that”. This was a grief that I had felt that I could not turn to Him, however there was an invitation to turn to Him no matter what.

The Grief Room the #4 Corner: “Grief over times I didn’t ask for His heart again.”

Jesus was showing me and preparing me for how grievous it was to Him when I felt ashamed and didn’t ask for His heart again. He gave me the dream that it was the second time that I wouldn’t look to Him.  Then there was the dream of “Mr. Squash-bucket” and it is demonic. He is hitting me in the chest with a bucket and this about killed me. I felt that this was supposed to happen to me; I felt that I was to supposed to be abused because I felt separated from the Lord and I was not talking to Him. So, I was just letting this guy do this. Jesus was standing in the corner . Jesus said to me “I would never do that”. This was a grief that I had felt that I could not turn to Him, however there was an invitation to turn to Him no matter what.

Grief Room’s Corner #3 “Pain that You have caused God”

This is a hard one to face. Bob shares the story of his Dad, God and the Judge:

“I was in a courtroom and I am with a judge. This judge is the judge that I had appeared before when I was 17. I had mouthed off to him. I had not paid a speeding ticket. They were going to put me in the city tank, and I got before the Judge, real put out, and I said “Why don’t you arrest the real criminals?” The judge got mad and sentenced me to 10 days in the county jail. That night in the jail there was a knife fight and 22 guys were stabbed, it was a dangerous setting. My parents got me out of jail after a few hours.

So in the dream it was this judge that I was coming before and my dad is standing with him. There are huge stacks of paper piled so high, all the way to ceiling. So I see my dad on one side, and on the other side there is a golden glow. This was before I was a believer and it helped me to become one.

The judge is starting to go through the pieces of paper and every paper has a list of offenses of the ways I had hurt my natural father. My father was the kindest most tender man.

The First Offense was when I lied to my dad about an elephant ride. I told my dad the kid was giving it to charity and he wasn’t. So my dad walked out and asked tommy miller what charity he was giving the money to, and he wasn’t checking on me, but then tommy said “my pocket” and my father realized that I had lied to him. So I followed my dad into his bedroom and he sits down on the edge of his bed. We had never had that kind of deal where I had lied to him. He looked out the window for a long time, wondering why I had lied to him. The judge started screaming at me saying this was my offense.

Then the Second Offense was my older brother, and he wasn’t able to get taller than 4 feet 10. The kids at his school would beat up on him, and he would come home and try to wrestle me to feel better about himself. I would always roll up in a ball and not fight back because my dad had told me “bobby please don’t hurt his psyche”. Well this one day, I just take him apart, kept wrestling him down. My brother was feeling the pain, and I never treated him like that. I looked up and my dad was looking out the window, so sad. I went in and my dad said “well, now you’ve done it” and from that point on, my dad started my brother on experimental growth hormones to help him grow taller.

The judge continued screaming at me, and they were just little things in comparison to other things I had done, but they had hurt my father’s heart. The judge told me that I was guilty, and then he pointed to the golden hue. The judge said “You have done these things to your earthly father, but how much more have you hurt your heavenly father who sees everything?” then I see the stacks of offenses piled so high.

I felt so much grief over the pain I had caused God and I said “Who can deliver me from this mountain of sin? I don’t want to hurt anybody ever again”.

Then this man walks down the aisle and says “I will take the penalty for his sins” and he looks up into my eyes and I know it is Jesus. Then the judge stands up and puts a spear right through His heart. He was still alive at first and He is looking at me with those eyes and blood is pouring out. Then He turns into the lamb and the blood starts pouring over me. He freed me from that mountain of sin.

Later on, I went back and asked Him for the list and He showed me some of the things because I had made the decision that I never wanted to hurt Him again”

#2 Corner: “Grief over Pain You have caused Others”

Bob Hartley: “After Jesus identified with my grief and sorrows in Corner #1. I wanted to endure hardship well and grieve over the sorrows that I had caused others. At that point Jesus had me write out the sorrows that I caused others, whether they were caused by me or not. He had me go through 3-4 people and the sorrow that I had caused them. That was all I had capacity for, but I began to enjoy it. I could endure their pain and bring it to Him. I could see my part in it and that is where He showed me the 8 ways Jesus died. I had to watch the 8 ways He died, and how in the bible it says not to crucify Christ again. Jesus told me I might have to die more than once to relieve someone’s grief and pain. Jesus showed me that as soon as I grieved over what I had done it would set them free. Something would change in the spirit when I really realized what I had done and the pain that I had caused. Then when I saw them, the love would be able to flow freely again. It was the true starting point of Love and Forgiveness.”

Bob’s Angelic Visitation:

“Jesus then brought up the angelic visitation that happened when I met John Wimber and stayed in a house with him. John asked me how the youth were and I told him how they were communist infiltrators, and how hard they were for me, but I was just teasing. John looked at me and said “Hartley, they are beautiful” Later that night when I went to bed, I woke up and said a person that I had caused  hurt: “Do you see what I see?” and the wall was gone. I saw a blue night sky and the stars were brilliant. I saw an angel writing in the sky. The first thing the angel wrote was: “Oh the Beauty and the Wonder and the Dignity and Valuable Worth of a human being in Gods sight.” He wrote this in a gold script that entered right through me for the purpose of changing me. Then He wrote “In Kindness, Proclaim Truth to human beings” And then the angel wrote “If you cant help them, don’t hurt them”. There was a sensitizing in this place of grief, to the heart of God towards people in their grief.”


The Yellow House Journey continues inside The Grief Room – Hope Amidst Adversity: The first corner of the Grief Room is called:

“Grief over things you have gone through”

 There are 3 Main Things that happen in Corner #1: 

  1. Jesus grieves with us over the painful things we have experienced in our lives.
  2. Jesus listens to our grief. We process our pain with Him and are honest about what we are feeling. He comforts us in our grief.
  1. He never leaves our side. He promises us that we will not stay stuck in the feelings of grief forever. We need to walk through the grief in order to move past it in our lives; and His Presence is our strength.

Bob Hartley: “I headed into the first corner and I was convinced that Jesus was going to show me how I had hurt & wronged others, and I thought He was really going to have me take responsibility for the grief and pain I had caused. I didn’t feel ready for this. I felt like I couldn’t handle it; like I was in a hospital bed bleeding and any more would have killed me. It felt like that.

Then I see Jesus and He is kneeling down and praying. Then He looks up at me and says “I am so so sorry for what you have been through”. I was stunned, and He was looking at me with His big brown eyes and He just kept saying “I am so so sorry for what has happened to you in your life” and He listed out the certain points. He was grieving over the things I had gone through and I was undone. I just melted into His arms and stayed there a long long time. I allowed Him to tell me about His care and comfort, His sorrow. He told me to be kind to myself, be patient with myself.”

The first grief was the grief over what people had gone through and it was a great understanding to bring to the body of Christ and even in the healing models when we take people through the grief room. It wasn’t a part of the 5 stages of grieving, but it was about God grieving over your sorrow. It doesn’t make you a victim because you realize everyone has had a tough life but you are not alone it.


Every Room of the Yellow House has an entry with a story.
Bob tells the story of his entry into the Grief Room:

Bob: “The Lord reminded of the dreams that helped me enter into the Grief Room. I was reticent to go into the room and I hid a few times. Jesus was laughing with joy. I was naked and hiding behind a rock; I had a tie on and nothing else. Jesus was being very playful with me. I finally came out from behind the rock and Jesus put His arm around me. He began to remind me of the times when I was younger, even as young as 6 years old, and I would see the rock where Jesus knelt down and sweat blood because of His grief and pain. Jesus died for the sake of all mankind, and I thought over and over again how I never wanted to go there… I never wanted to go into that place of grief.

So I had my first holy communion when I was 12 years old. It was a big big deal in the church. It took place at midnight and they had lit about 1000 candles and a bunch of us boys were up in the front. I had a vision of all the lights becoming one light and it lit up where He was kneeling by the rock, sweating blood and grieving. Suddenly I went into that picture, and I did NOT want to go into that picture.

Then Jesus showed me the grief I was experiencing in my own life because my family had fallen apart, my mother was bedridden, and I was grieving over my pains. Some of the pains were general, like things in my neighborhood, but the point was that I was carrying things that were beginning to change me. I thought that Jesus was calling me to carry these griefs, but Jesus called me to Him and said: “I am so so sorry”. He had a deep desire to draw me near to him and hold me and comfort me.

Then the scene changed to Psalm 131 and I was a baby putting my head on His Chest and crying a lot.

Then the scene changed and He was the God of the 5th scene. That was the first time He showed me that image and I didn’t understand it. Jesus was high in the sky laughing, and there was just a little dot of evil. Then all the darkness imploded and He was celebrating and laughing. That is when I realized that we have to sorrow with Hope because God is so much greater. (2 Corinthians 7 – Grief with hope)

I ran home from that Catholic Church and never hit the ground. I really believe I was so lifted in the spirit that I never hit the ground. Then later that night my neighbor extended such comfort to me in my grief and it deepened the earlier experience.

The Lord showed me this beautiful experience of Him carrying my grief and He asked me why I didn’t think this would be even better this time around. It was because I was afraid that I would become stuck in my grief and sorrow.

Jesus kept saying “Aren’t I the Better than God? Don’t I help you sorrow with Hope?” and He kept reminding me of times where He had comforted me in my grief and given me hope. I had felt so much shame and pain and felt like what I was experiencing was a whole other level of grief, and I didn’t feel that He or I were able to handle it.

This went on for about 3 weeks and there was a point where I surrendered and the Lord gave me a dream where He told me that I had to deal with my grief for the sake of my children because if I didn’t get free from grief, they would never be free from grief.”

Inside The Yellow House “Grief Room”

Where you find HOPE in the Midst of Adversity

Bob Hartley:

“It is here that we find a new definition of grief. In the Grief Room that God showed me His face as the Comforter. Jesus reminded me of the times when He came and put His arm around me; Like the time when I flipped the truck, and the time when I left home for the first time. God knew that I was afraid that I would get stuck in the pain and the shame. I was really averse to entering into the Grief Room. I did NOT want to go in there! Our God is a Hopeful & Joyful Comforter. What He said and showed me in the Grief Room, was His smile and His posture. This joy and confidence was like I had a present in this room and I didn’t even begin to understand how valuable this present was. It was like the present of ALL presents that would change my life forever! And also it would change anyone’s life who went through this room. It felt like the most powerful lesson we could ever learn.”

Jesus to Bob: “You would run into this room; if you knew what you would get out of this room and realize how much I am there with you!”


“I was naked, but His arm was around me.”

“I felt ashamed, but Jesus didn’t even see me naked.”

On the Journey through The Yellow House you go through 12 Rooms.

Each room has several corners for you to encounter Jesus.

In September we are exploring The Grief Room where you find HOPE in the midst of adversity.

Bob Hartley had a very powerful & touching encounter with Jesus in the first corner of this room.

Bob: “I thought the first corner would be dealing with all the pains I had caused others and the I saw Him kneeling down and praying,. Then Jesus looks at me and says “I'm so, so sorry” and He said it a few times. This really stunned me. He was looking right through me. His eyes were welling with tears. He said that He was so sorry for the things I had gone through. I was undone! I melted in His arms.”

What exactly is “The Counsel Table of the Lord” and Why is it important?

Bob Hartley’s Encounter at the Counsel Table of the Lord:
Bob: “I have had several encounters where the Lord brought me to His Counsel table and He shared His secrets with me, and gave me hopeful questions to ask Him.  And not only me, but many people were seated at this table.”

It is the reality of Psalm 27; not only sitting at His Feet and gazing at His Beauty, but also inquiring of Him in His temple.

The One thing of Psalm 27:4 is actually Two things.  .  .  .

1) To begin with seeing Him for Who He is and adoring Him

2) Also moving into a place of dialogue and friendship with Him

  • Seeking out the Pearls of His wisdom
  • Inquiring of Him regarding His heart for us, for others, and for cities and nations.


The Definition of The Counsel Table of the Lord:

 It is the greatest “Place of Communion”, a Place where:

  • You are granted to sit with the King, Himself
  • He feeds you with His very own Hand.
  • You experience the greatest relational bridge with God that you will ever experience.
  • You have the most beautiful and wondrous place of friendship with God.
  • You have a deep communion and heart to heart intimacy with God, that it causes the hearts of those around the table to burn with desire for Him, His Heart, His Thoughts and His Voice.
  • His Pearls and Treasures come forth in this place.
  • At His Counsel Table, He desires this heart connect and dialogue through deep relationship with His friends.
  • He will unlock the Treasures of the Deep; He will unlock His very heart.
  • Communion is so rich at the Table that all experience:
  • Burning hearts for Him
  • Delectable feelings for Him (the ‘Hot Honey’ of His Feelings and Emotions from within)
  • Unintelligible Peace manifests
  • You receive a New & Deep Knowing of Him
  • Psalm 23; where He sets you at a table before your enemies and rest comes forth
  • Friendship with God is over your tent that protects and cares for your heart

The Main 2 Benefits of Sitting at The Counsel Table of the Lord:

  • Intimacy with God
  • God receives all the love and honor from you in all of your life that He is due

“Love the Lord, your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.”          Mark 12:30

Our Yellow House Journey continues in this month of September as we enter the Grief Room.

Bob Hartley: “I could not move into hope and be a reformer if I did not deal with my grief. I needed to deal with grief in a healthy way. This is not an option, grief must be dealt with.”

There is important value in learning how to sorrow in Hope and to not get stuck in dank emotions or grief. Dealing with grief was the key to being resilient, having post-traumatic growth, and it would make us anti-fragile, and it would make us compassionate. In the Grief Room we learn how to empathize with others emotions and not wrongly take on the burdens of their pain.

Grief enables a beautiful 360 view where we gain the ability to stay focused on our dreams and for our dreams to go even deeper, sweeter and become more substantial. The prophetic value is that God gives you an understanding of grief so that you would get the true value of grief. Grief is not identifying with how others feel about you or about others, it was identifying with how God feels for you and others. God said to never take on anyone else's sadness or grief in a wrong way. Asking God how He is feeling towards people in their pain enables us to identify with God in the right way towards people. You really get set free when you really have the right perspective on grief. The Grief Room is a Place of strength because there is no false mercy.

In this room the most painful emotions will come out but they will turn into the sweetest places of hope because you will meet the God of Comfort and learn how to grieve with Him in healthy ways. Here in the Grief Room you will not deny or suppress, or get stuck in pain; You will learn how to sorrow with Hope and how to keep our eyes on God even in the hardest of times. In the Grief Room you learn to hear with ears of Hope in the midst of adversity.

The Grief Room ~ Hope in the Midst of Adversity

In September of 2018, we will shift from The Yellow House Room of Hope Hearing into The Grief Room.
It will be very important that we continue to stay focused with hearing God from a perspective full of hope;
We will advance in the midst of grief and adversity with hope & new miracles! Everyone’s hearts will be enlarged in the Grief Room through Hope Hearing.

  • The Value of The Grief Room
    For years Lord told Bob that he needed to go through the grief room. Jesus said in this room the most painful emotions will come out but they will be made into the sweetest place of hope in this room. (Hebrews 12:3 – consider Jesus who experienced such opposition so that you don't grow weary and lose heart)
  • The emphasis is that Satan uses grief to turn you away from simple devotion, but you are to consider Jesus even more. The reason for grief is to consider Jesus even more. More to come . .  .